Most people don’t like to hear that they had a part in creating the thing they’re complaining about but it’s true. Sometimes our contribution is that we have chosen to stay and not walk away from the situation.

Let’s talk about B.O.Body Odor. We’ve all encountered that person who emanates an unpleasant smell.We think they really should be bathing more or washing their clothes or changing their diet.

We get the best ideas in the shower. We all know this - but have you ever thought about why? Seems these days nearly everyone is overwhelmed.

If you want a hack for New Year's, put "no complaining" on your list. Why? Because it's difficult to avoid hearing (and saying) complaints.

A few tips on how to deal with others' (and your own) complaints over the holidays: [originally recorded as a Facebook Live event]

BREAKING NEWS (NOT): It's hard to watch the news without getting frustrated, afraid, or angry. This only gets worse once you decide to Go NoCo and you become extra-sensitive to things that trigger negative feelings.

Many personal development and leadership teachers include some variation on "stop complaining" as key to success and happiness. Recent discoveries have revealed that complaining will hurt you mentally and physically

High standards are tricky. They can be great motivators or you can use them to beat up yourself and others. It all depends on whether you think of them as goals or measures. And if they're grounded in reality.

Before you start reading: Take a deep breath in and let it out slowly. Do that one more time.Now a third time, paying attention to the air that’s moving through your body.

Why do so many of us complain the moment we arrive somewhere? Whether it’s about the traffic or parking or weather or whatever, so often upon arrival we say hello and immediately launch into complaints.

My Dearest Inner Critic,

I really love you. I know that might not sound so healthy considering all the mean ways you talk to me, but hear me out.

None of us enjoys the feeling of having disappointed someone. Sometimes we face disappointment from others, and sometimes we’ve disappointed ourselves. Either way, we don’t like the feeling.

Here's a question you may not have asked yourself: While you're deciding on a goal or making a resolution, what mood are you in? Resolutions and goals usually involve choices about which bad habits to break and which good ones you'll try to establish.

The decision to stop complaining is not an easy one. It's taking a stand against negative forms of conversation and thinking, yes, and it's so much more than that.

We’ve all heard that to improve our happiness we should do things like “cultivate gratitude,” “live your purpose,” and “be in the now.”

You know that you can tell how someone is feeling by looking at their body language. In truth, their body language is often more accurate than what they're saying out loud.But did you know that it goes the other way, too?

It's Monday. Welcome back!This is a friendly NoCo reminder not to fall into the trap of reflexively complaining about having to be back at work this Monday

One of the great fallacies of being a writer is the idea that you should wait for inspiration to start writing. The truth is that pretty much every published writer says the key is to write whether or not you're inspired.This "just do it" attitude is true of any creative or passion-driven endeavor.

If you've taken a NoCo class, you've heard me say that comparisons are at the root of most (if not all) complaints. In fact, at its core, a complaint is a comparison between some ideal alternative and the reality of what is happening.

One of the most common NoCo questions I get is, "Is that a complaint?" It can be difficult to tell sometimes. And I've worked with several of you who are trying to eliminate all negativity from your conversations, but tough situations come up almost daily that put this resolve to the test.

When I get into my blacker moods, I spin into absolutist thinking. I start using terms like "always" and "never" about whatever situation I'm in or whoever I'm thinking about.

This morning I took a yoga class from the amazing and insightful Kimber Simpkins. Every class she brings in a theme, some thoughts to hold in your head while you're doing the poses. These are Big Thoughts, the kinds of Thoughts that work their way under your skin and stick around for a while.

When you fail at something you said you wanted to accomplish, what do you do?

Do you beat yourself up over it? Does your inner critic start insulting you? Do you think about giving up? Do you use it as further evidence of how you can't stick to anything?

Often when someone is complaining they’re talking about how they felt some other time, not now. They are describing a past event that made them feel frustrated or angry or hurt.