The Courage to Stop Complaining

The decision to stop complaining is not an easy one. It's taking a stand against negative forms of conversation and thinking, yes, and it's so much more than that. The decision to stop complaining means we've decided to stop being observers, passing commentary on the events of our lives without taking action. It means we've decided to be agents of change in our own lives. The decision to stop complaining means we refuse to spew negativity at those around us. It means we recognize and respect the impact we have on others.The decision to stop complaining means we will stop talking behind people's backs. It means we are willing to have hard conversations.The decision to stop complaining means we challenge the culture of negativity. It means we will choose and create new ways of being in the world.The decision to stop complaining means we refuse to blame others. It means we are taking responsibility for our lives.The decision to stop complaining means we will not allow ourselves to be torn down, not even by our inner critic. It means we recognize our own value.The decision to stop complaining means we choose not to commiserate and bond through frustration. It means we will strive for connection through celebrating each other.The decision to stop complaining means we will challenge the ways we are self-centered. It means we are willing to listen.The decision to stop complaining means we have decided to stop living in a fantasy world of perfection. It means we are willing to live in reality and to see it for what it is.The decision to stop complaining means letting past aggravations stay in the past. It means we are here now.The decision to stop complaining means we will stop focusing on what isn't. It means we have gratitude for what is.The decision to stop complaining means we will stop hiding how we've been hurt, building walls to protect ourselves. It means we are stepping into vulnerability and opening our hearts.The decision to stop complaining means we will stop waiting for things to change. It means we are willing to lead.The decision to stop complaining takes courage.The decision to stop complaining means we are ready to be fully alive.

-- The NoCo Manifesto by Cianna P. Stewart

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